READING CAN MAKE YOU SUCCESSFUL

Reading can enhance your life. Studies show that the most successful people are the ones who read. We can learn a lot by picking up a magazine, a book, or a newspaper. I think it's great to be able to talk to others about what you read, too. Reading promotes conversation, intelligence, and knowledge. So, what are you waiting for?

I think everyone has a story to tell, and we should. For many years, I got away from writing fiction, but I have had a great time writing my first novel as an adult. Changing real-life situations into fiction helps heal the heart.

What can I say about Life? Mine has been tough at times, but I'm grateful that God has given me mercy, grace, and love. I love my life and the family I've been blessed with.

Sunday, November 24, 2013

The Furry Little Dog - A True Story




One cold January day, a cute little dog arrived at their house. He looked like he was freezing and probably lost. Or maybe even dumped. 


 


The little boys of the house tried to persuade their mom and dad to let the little dog come in that night. The parents, though, thought the dog belonged to someone, so they said no. However, they put a box with some blankets in it out on the porch for the dog. But there was something about him…

The mom got up in the night to check on him, and when she looked outside, the furry little dog was sitting on the deck, facing out towards the back yard, so he didn’t see her. He was staring out into the distance like he was waiting for something… or someone.

The next day, the mom and dad couldn't stand it anymore and let the little dog come into the house. And he acted like he belonged there with them.


 

Dad took the dog to the vet in town to see if he recognized him at all and to find out how old he might be. The vet said he had never seen him before, and he guessed his age to be about two years old.

 

 

After a couple of days, the dad and a couple of the kids went for a walk with the dog, hoping to find his owner, if he had one. The dog went up to someone’s porch, so the family figured he had found his home. When they kept walking, and the dog stayed behind, it seemed like it was a done deal.

Three days later, the mom was on her way home from work, and when she was about 15 minutes from home, she had a terrible thought about something happening to the little dog. You see, a storm was coming in that night, and all the mom could think about was the dog and whether he was warm or not… whether he was still alive or not.

So while she was driving home down Pryor Mountain, the mom prayed and asked God to let the little dog find his way back to them if he still didn’t have a home.

She had no idea the dad felt like he needed to go look for the dog, too. He and one of the boys drove around the neighborhood looking for him, but they didn’t see him anywhere. Right after the mom prayed for the dog, a lady rang the doorbell at the house. When the dad answered, she asked if they had been looking for a little homeless dog because one had been sitting on her neighbor’s porch. They were worried about the furry dog, too, because the family was going out of town.

Dad and son jumped in the car and drove to where the little dog was. When they got out of the car, the dog ran to greet them, jumping into the son’s arms. 


 

And they went home.
 

When Mom came home a few minutes later, she didn’t notice the little dog at first. She was more concerned with one of the other dogs being on the sofa. When one of her sons walked over to her holding the furry little dog, she started to cry and said, “I was just praying for him! I was just praying about this. I guess God even cares about little dogs.” And she picked him up and hugged him.

 

That little dog stayed with the family, even moving with them from Arkansas to Texas. He thinks he's in charge, just as his dog sisters do, too.

 

When you are tempted to think that you don’t matter, I hope you’ll remember the story of God showing He cares even about everyone, even little furry dogs.

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Encouragement for Today

The words to this song are great, and I needed to hear it today. If you need some HOPE today, listen to this song, "Crave," by For King and Country.


"Hope sleeps without me
Her sweet dreams surround me,
But I'm left out
I'll need a fix now
To believe, to feel
These rooms are dark now
These halls are hollow,
And so am I
She is hard to find now
To believe
To see
Hope is what we crave, and that will never change
So I stand and wait
I need a drop of grace to carry me today,
A simple song to say
It's written on my soul:
Hope's what we crave
I won't turn to dust now
Let these tears rust now on my face
Give me the spark now
To believe
To see
Hope is what we crave, and that will never change
So I stand and wait
I need a drop of grace to carry me today,
A simple song to say
It's written on my soul:
Hope's what we crave

To live, to die,
To lose, to get,
To rise above
To love again
To live, to die,
To lose, to get,
To rise above
To love again

To love again

Hope is what we crave, and that will never change
So I stand and wait
I need a drop of grace to carry me today,
A simple song to say
Hope is what we crave
I need a drop of grace
It's written on my soul:
Hope's what we crave

It's written on my soul:
Hope's what we crave
Hope's what we crave
Hope's what I crave."



Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Will I Get a Second Chance?



What comes to mind when you hear the phrase, “Second Chance?”

Many things come to my mind when I think of that phrase…

I think of many people I know who were married, and something devastating happened. Their marriages broke up, and they were brokenhearted… And then…

Her husband moved to another state one day and in with a woman he had been carrying on with outside his marriage. She was so heartbroken, and so were his little girls! A man came along whose wife had passed away, and he was perfect for her, and she was perfect for him. Her girls were adopted by him, and the past is getting further and further away. They are sharing a most wonderful love story.

In another case, this lady had stepped out of their marriage because he was untrustworthy with money, and not the strong man she needed. A man came along who started taking care of her. They got married and have a real life together. And they have a little boy who is just darling.

A young mother who fell in love at age 16 and had a baby girl. The guy kept stringing her along, breaking her heart over and over again. A man came along who loves her and her little girl, and they got married this summer. Their story is sweet and real.

And a girl who loved a boy so much… But he left her before their third baby was born, a little baby girl. And he also left their two little boys behind. She gave him many chances, but she couldn’t do it anymore. A man showed up and fell in love with this girl and her babies and is now married to her, pledging to be with her forever, taking care of her and her children.

And then there’s my story. Being married the first time to someone who hated me but wouldn’t let me go. And then a man showed up who had problems of his own, and we’ve worked together for over 22 years to overcome the heartache and pain we had before each other… and after. We have five sons, beautiful kids who love their mom and dad. Kids who wouldn’t be here if their parents would have given up on each other.

There are so many stories like these, real people who are blessed with second chances at love and life. I can’t even remember all of them, or even write them all down. But I believe with my whole heart that God has written ALL of them. And as He orchestrates the events of our lives, even though we might fight against “the plan,” somehow things always seem to come back around.

And we get second chances.

Saturday, November 16, 2013

Thanksgiving, Christmas and Poverty



Right now, with Thanksgiving/Christmas is typically the season for charitable giving. We are feeling pretty good about the good gifts we’ve been given, and we want to give to others out of our thankfulness.

Unfortunately, poverty is alive and well and living next door to all of us. Whether or not these families struggle because of their own choices, or maybe they were laid off… Maybe they are disabled, or maybe they even suffer from PTSD. The point is there are people out there who need our help.

For many years, my husband and I wrestled with never having enough money. In fact, I’ll be honest; my whole adult life has been this way. Yes, it has partially been my fault in the past, and it has also been due to the sacrifices we were willing to make for me to stay home with our kids. But the circumstances really have no bearing on the facts.

If people are willingly and maliciously taking from others with no plan of getting out of their current circumstances, I can understand not helping them further. But have you heard of the term “working poor?”

Making minimum wage isn’t going to be sufficient for families to survive.

Working part-time, even though it’s the only job they can find, isn’t going to be sufficient for families to survive.

And then there are those of us who look down our noses at those who are less fortunate than we are. But, really, you never know when you might be right around the corner from being in the same shoes.

There are reasons why Jesus said not to judge others. And He also implores us to take care of the orphans and widows in their distress (James 1:27).

Teachers are some of the poorest paid individuals in the United States, and I think people forget that. They are required to pay into teacher retirement instead of Social Security, but the amount is significant. One would think that teachers have good health insurance, but in our experience, it isn’t great at all. (Right now, our insurance is probably the best we’ve had in the education system, but it’s very expensive.) And getting paid once a month is very difficult, especially when you have children who might need a brand new pair of shoes in the middle of your month, and you just don’t have the money for anything but food and gas to get to the job.

And there are other stories, too.

I know someone who was married to an abusive man who made her beg for money to feed their kids. He told her how worthless she was, and she started believing him. In fact, she started sleeping on the floor or sofa in their living room because he wouldn’t let her sleep in her own bed. When she finally got the courage to leave him, she could only find a part-time job. She made $8.00/hour and only qualified for around $80 in food stamps each month for 3 people. And then it was cut when she received a small raise that put her $10 over the limit.

Now she has to make the decision each month of paying her bills or feeding her kids.

When we first moved to Texas from Arkansas, it was pretty fantastic financially (at least, on paper) for us. While our pay increased, so did our expenses. The good thing for us was that we finally had HOPE things would be better. And gradually, they are getting better.

There was one month in that first summer that we had no money. Absolutely no money for food, gasoline, anything. I finally told a couple of our friends the short version (we have no money for even milk and bread) and asked them to pray for us.

They said they would pray for us. Practically, though, we still had no milk or bread.

Soon after, we received a card from my mom in the mail with a $50 bill inside. She said she just had a feeling that we needed it.

She had no clue.

If we all answered the call in our hearts, you know the feeling that something needs to be done for someone else, whether it’s buying gift cards, taking groceries to their house, sending them money, paying their utility bills, whatever you are being called to do… if we answered it, things in this world would dramatically change.

I’m asking this of you.

Next time you feel the urging to do something for someone else, just do it. You will feel great about it, and you could be the answer to someone’s prayers.

Here’s some helpful links.

North Texas Food Bank - http://web.ntfb.org/page.aspx?pid=253

Tarrant Area Food Bank - http://www.tafb.org/

Community Storehouse - http://www.communitystorehouse.org/


Tuesday, November 5, 2013

This is Not Goodbye



We never doubted their love for us, even though we weren’t their blood family.

When we first moved to Missouri, we couldn’t find a church home for a year. That’s a long time to be without friends. But when we finally did find that church, and met Bill and Barb, they adopted us into their family.

They even asked us to spend Easter at their house with their family. The fact we had three little boys didn’t bother them at all because, you see, Bill and Barb had raised five children of their own. They weren’t afraid of having us at their house, even though we all know that little kids bring their own “excitement.”

And when we found out we were pregnant with twins, they were right there. I mean, how many people actually have 5 kids, right? It's crazy!

The years that their kids spent the holidays with their in-laws, and Bill and Barb were alone, they came to our house. In fact, in 1999, we had invited my parents and Bill and Barb for Thanksgiving. Since I had not been feeling well (being pregnant), my house was not as “dusted” as some people believe it should have been. As we were eating our Thanksgiving feast, I remember watching a piece of dust from the ceiling fan fall slowly to the table. I looked at Barb, and we had a good laugh.

When their vehicle was no longer usable, and they needed something to drive, we were able to give them our 1991 Toyota Tercel. That poor car had seen better days, but it still ran. And we had been praying for an opportunity to bless someone with it. When Bill’s truck needed replacing, we called them, gave them the keys and the title.

It was so wonderful to be able to be on that end of the giving/receiving that time. Then, they turned it around on us.

They came over one day, and Bill gave us $400. He had made repairs on the car, and then he sold it. What he had made in excess of his expenses, he passed on to us. What a blessing!

We moved away from Missouri in 2006, but our love for their family has never waned. And I know their love for us never has, either. When Jim and I visited MO in 2009, we went to see Barb. She had broken her arm (I believe), and she looked so frail that day. But we sat and talked and laughed and cried together. It was tough to say goodbye.

Jim and I always joked around how we both needed moms in Missouri, so Barb was his “mom,” and another friend, Judy, was mine. That way, we both had them both.

Bill was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and had to live in a care facility for the last few years. And Barb went to live with her oldest son.

My kids have always called them Grandma Barb and Grandpa Bill. A couple of summers ago, Jonah went to stay with his friend in Missouri. One day, Bill and Barb’s son, Chris, picked Jonah up and took him to see Bill at the care facility. We were all very thankful for the time Jonah was able to spend with them.

Hospice was recently called, and the family went to see Bill for what would be the last time on this earth last night. He was ushered into his eternal home by the One who loved him all along.

We are too far away to attend the Celebration of Life that will take place this week for Grandpa Bill, but I want his family to know just how special we know he was. He smiled, he laughed, and he hugged us every time he saw us.

We will miss Bill here, but the good thing about knowing Jesus is we have hope we will see each other again. And there won’t be any sickness or crying or pain. Bill is now whole and well. I wouldn’t even be surprised if he was sitting around talking and laughing with my Grandma, Jim’s dad, and my Uncle Rick.

We never know when our last day on earth will be, and this is just a good reminder to live each day to the fullest, loving our family and friends.